It is very interesting to see how different people respond to the typical greeting of “How are you?”
We hear/see a wide array of responses to that question:
“Good, and you?”
“Could be better.”
“Couldn’t be better.”
“Having a rough day.”
"OK, I guess."
Frown, combined with shaking head.
A dear friend taught me about 20 years ago to always respond to the "How are you doing?" query with something upbeat and positive. His advice was based on a three-fold premise:
- It surprises people when you respond brightly and positively.
- Nobody really wants to hear it if you're not doing so well.
- A positive response actually has positive impact on your own psyche.
Sounded like good advice to me then, and now I have 20 years of evidence to support it.
How you doin'?