Of course we all have flaws. Of course we all have shortcomings. Of course we all want to be better versions of ourselves.
What we are, what we aspire to, and what we can become is influenced by what we perceive that others see in, and expect from, us.
Let's flip the perspective: If the eye with which I behold others can have a positive impact on their achieving their most honorable potentialities, their best selves, then why wouldn't I choose to focus on their bestness rather than their worstness?
In a culture that seems a bit too focused on tearing each other down, how about we choose to be renegade? We get to choose what we focus on, no?