From that learning journey toward being a more powerful listener, here a few observations that continue to shape my growth in this area:
- Listening, counterintuitively, seems to be a more powerful tool of persuasion than talking.
- Talking makes me tired while listening makes me think.
- Deep listening is a very difficult skill to hone.
- Talking is more likely to convey arrogance, condescension, rudeness, devaluation, and pressure than does listening.
- Listening exposes me much more to the thinking and wisdom of others than does my talking.
- Listening seems to make me a better servant, a better friend, a better husband, a better leader, and, yes, even a better talker (not a more prolific talker; just a more effective talker).
The journey continues.