For your consideration (and, yes, I'm just makin' this stuff up):
- Distracted Listening - only hearing parts and pieces of what the other is saying (like when you have bad cell phone signal)
- Rebuttal Listening - listening just well enough and long enough to fashion and deliver counterpoints
- Cascade Listening - when we hear, then add to, hear again, then amend, hear some more, then extend (lots of "ands" and minimal "buts" - the work of getting stuff done)
- Info Listening - done to build our knowledge base, because informed opinions really are of more value than just opinions
- Connectional Listening - listening to deeply understand the other's perspective, contexts, positions, interests, motivations, aspirations... (what I often call "listening a hole in 'em")
Others subconsciously gauge our level of listening, and attribute to us a commensurate level of caring (probably with great accuracy).
The best leaders I know are superb listeners, which means they spend the preponderance of their listening time in levels 3, 4, and 5 above.
LEAD (I mean listen) ON!