Toughness

Those in leadership roles (e.g., parents, managers, owners, captains, teachers, bosses, etc.) must possess a healthy dose of toughness.  Not meanness, toughness.  Not brutishness, toughness.  Not insensitivity, toughness.  Not harshness, toughness.

What can toughness look like?  Here are some examples:

• Saying "no" when you'd prefer to say "yes" (and vice versa).
• Shouldering the blame to protect valued others and their good work.
• Ignoring a rule/law/protocol and being willing to defend that act.
• Insisting that people come before structure(s), foibles and all.
• Sticking to principle even if it means losing friends, employees, jobs.
• Listening attentively even when it's hard to hear merit in the talk.
• Letting right-minded others make some (non-fatal) mistakes, even if you know a "better" way.
• Forgiving, even when it's the last thing you want to do.

Leadership is no job for sissies or the wobbly.  Only the tough need apply.